Restating the obvious, I am the world renowned expert on most things and fervently hope that my clients turn to me for answers to their most pressing problems. Again, I welcome and encourage your cries for help, which as I must state over and over again because this free blogsite is very limited in its ability to show problems and solutions on my main page: you have to drill down to the COMMENTS section after each blog to ask your question, which I answer within the respective COMMENTS section.
However, if you have a question relating to a problem person in your life, and it's midnight on the east coast, or the Yenta is unavailable or otherwise occupied and you NEED HELP NOW, I am going to let you in on a little trade secret: 80% of you can find your solution by googling "narcissism" and studying the findings of the experts. A particularly fascinating site is Narcissism101.com.
Died in the wool, incorrigible, impossible, borderline sociopathic individuals who ruin people's lives because they have no conscience and easily slime their way in through charm or other forms of manipulation (including marrying your natural parent to thereafter seek illegitimate control over an aspect of their life that is out of bounds) are a pox on our house. They are a pox on everyone's house and more likely than not, your house will be poxed by one of these scumbuckets sooner or later.
It is quite dreadful for the first time sufferer to encounter the narcissist through the divorce and remarriage of a parent. Depending on how old one is, one can be quite under the thumb until the age of emancipation. And then one must endure the begging and pleading of one's natural parent to "understand" and "get along with" and "tolerate" and "kiss the fat bloody ass of" the evil narcissist step-thing in the years thereafter.
It is also quite dreadful, but not as life-altering if caught quickly, for first time sufferers to romantically encounter a narcissist. Running, and running fast, can and must be swiftly accomplished, however, care must be taken to avoid reverse stalking by the more sociopathic variety of narcissist. In these cases, orders of protection are called for, but by the time one realizes this, one is emotionally cured. Now one only needs to care for one's physical well being, which is actually easier than emotional. It's the emotional slipshoddiness that gets us into "bed" with these monsters to begin with.
So to bottom line it, look up "narcissist" and see if that is your problem. My most recent case made me realize that this is something most of my clients need to do to get back on the road to emotional well being. It's the old 80-20 rule I learned about as an economics major at the University of North Carolina: Pareto Optimization, the introduction to this Italian genius of life.
80% of the problems you have with assholes can be tracked back to narcissism, THEIRS. Go educate yourself!
